Oh, yeah, one more lesson

One more lesson-- the next time someone says "If things get really bad I'm going to sell everything, buy a rowboat and row out into the Pacific Ocean" my response should be, "Whatever floats your (row) boat.

After Christmas musings

Ah, well, learned a valuable lesson today. Never go out of your way to help someone because it will (and I mean will, not possibly) come back to bite you. Never mind last minute letters of reference written or newspaper articles proofread the night before they were due. Or offers to have a friend stay with you, or condolences given because a friend hooked up with a guy who turned out to be a thief and a drug addict. or critiques exchanged. Or suggestions of going to grad school-- even encouragement to go, attempts to find someone to be a reference for them. Right-- and then a slap in the face later.

So my New Year's resolution:

I'm not getting involved in any one sided friendships ever again. Not worth my time and frustration. I've got enough real friends to last me a lifetime.

Old friends, former friends

Reconnected with an old friend tonight and confirmed that a recent friend is no longer a friend. I've never understood how people can just decide to not be friends. Yes, friendships fade away gradually. But how do you wake up one day and say "I don't want to be friends with him/her any more"? That is just so foreign to me.

But then again, this person was probably never a true friend to begin with. I'm just going to move on. I've got tons of other friends-- I don't need to regret losing one person off my list. There's plenty more out there to gain, too.